In this article we look at the 5 steps you need to follow make affirmations work for you.
But first, let’s begin with a quick reminder of what an affirmation is and how they create positive changes in your life.
What is an Affirmation?
An affirmation is a positive phrase you say on a regular basis (at least daily) to help change your thinking to a more positive outlook.
With a change to a positive mindset you begin to manifest and attract positive people, experiences and opportunities into your life. Affirmations are a powerful way to rewire your brain and improve your reality.
However, you must be consistent with your affirmations. You must also truly believe in the positive things you are saying each day.
You should be prepared to say your affirmations every day for the foreseeable future. In fact, you want to think of affirmations as becoming part of your day to day routine from now on. You don’t say them for 3 weeks and give up. You make them part of who you are and commit to say them from now on, forever.
Make sure to refresh your affirmations from to time but you should never waiver from your promise to say them each day.
So, that’s the process but how do you find phrases to make affirmations work for you?
Make it Personal and Make Affirmations Work for You
Just saying any old phrase day in, day out is not going to work if the phrase has no personal connection for you.
Saying a phrase such as “I am healthy” or “I am loved” may make a difference to you but there are possibly many other phrases that will help much more. These phrases will go right to the heart of how you think and feel.
You need to create or find affirmations that relate to your personal circumstances. Experts discovered that affirmations are far more powerful if they are tailored for your particular needs.
Use the following five step process to design your own personalized affirmations.
- Use your negative self-talk
- Turn your negatives into positives
- Believe your affirmations are your new reality
- Schedule and say your affirmations
- Move in the right direction
Let’s begin with Step 1 …
Step 1 – Use Your Negative Self-Talk
This step may feel counter-intuitive to begin with, but it is a powerful way to make an affirmation truly your own.
What are the negative phrases you’re saying to yourself each day?
There may be many, so write them down.
If there are lots, don’t worry, you’re perfectly normal. The vast, vast majority of human beings have negative thoughts every day. You pretty much have to be a transcendental spiritual super-being not to have negative thoughts!
We are ALL filled with a whole range of doubts, insecurities, negative thoughts and issue with self-esteem. Affirmations are a great way to address them head on.
If writing down your negative thoughts is a daunting prospect, then enlist the help of a trusted friend or family member to sit with you. This step can be over-whelming and a bit raw. However, it is a powerful way to acknowledge the thoughts you want to change.
One way to make this step less daunting is to focus on a single area of your life you wish to see the most positive change the soonest. Start there. It could be relationships, wealth, your health, career or any aspect of your life you’d like to improve. Don’t try to change everything all at once.
We also recommend you do Step 1 and Step 2 at the same time.
The reason for this is to make sure you don’t do just Step 1 and feel pretty low after writing your negative thoughts. You don’t need those thoughts hanging around.
Go straight to Step 2. This is a fun positive step where you turn your negatives into positives and make affirmations work for you!
Step 2 – Turn Your Negatives into Positives
This step turns the negative, limiting beliefs you wrote down in Step 1 into positive phrases you can believe in.
On a piece of paper, draw a line down the middle. To the left of the line write down the negative thoughts and be ready to write positive alternatives on the other side.
If you’re looking for inspiration for your affirmations, visit our Louise Hay YouTube videos page. It’s a collection of videos, including affirmations, said by the much loved and respected Louise Hay.
Let’s have a look at an example.
You may have written “I don’t deserve love” on the left side of your paper. Now, on the right side, write a new positive statement that says the opposite and is something you want in your life.
You could simply write “I deserve love” and use that as one of your affirmations. It is simple and goes to the heart of a belief that is currently limiting your life.
However, you could expand the positive thought and say “I deserve love each and every day” or “I give love and deserve love” or “I surround myself with loving people who know in their hearts I give and deserve love”.
There is no correct set of words other than the ones you feel the most connection with. It may take a few attempts before you find a phrase that you relate strongly to.
Follow this process for each negative thought on your list.
This is very important if you want to make affirmations work for you.
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Step 3 – Believe Your Affirmations are Your New Reality
This step is where you need your faith in the process.
You are challenging some of your deep-seated negative beliefs. Simply turning a negative belief into a positive one does not make it go away overnight.
Look at your list of positive affirmations and connect with the reality they represent to you. Write them on a new piece of paper to separate them from the negative beliefs you are moving away from.
Some of the new phrases, because they are so different to your current thinking, may look like they belong to someone else. They are yours; they belong to you and they are the reality you are creating.
Simply by writing and reading these new positive statements you are opening up new possibilities in the Universe.
To bring further power and belief to your affirmations you need to say them out loud with feeling each day.
Even if some days you do not feel like saying them or really believe them, say them anyway. Your commitment and belief in the process is what matters.
Over time (and we can’t say how long) these new positive beliefs will begin to replace your old negative ways of thinking. They are powerful expressions of a new you. Do not deny them.
Look for the signs that the outlook for your life is changing.
If you used to have negative thoughts about loneliness, look for signs in your life that you are meeting more people as the result of a more positive outlook from your affirmations.
Look for every opportunity to reinforce your belief in the affirmations process.
Step 4 – Schedule and Say Your Affirmations
You have your positive affirmations and the belief in the process.
Next, you need to schedule the same time each day to say your affirmations. You may even want to say your affirmations more than once a day, that’s even better!
Pick a time of day you can have a few minutes privacy where you can say your affirmations out loud and with feeling.
For most people this is typically a morning routine or an evening routine. You can say your affirmations after you brush your teeth and when you are in front of a mirror.
In fact, saying affirmations in front of a mirror adds extra meaning to them as you want to project a positive smile and image in the mirror. Your subconscious mind sees you smiling and saying positive phrases. Over time, this will positively affect your behaviour.
So, decide the time of day you’re going to say your affirmations. Write in in your diary and keep your commitment to say them. This is key to making affirmations work for you.
Step 5 – Move in the Right Direction
Just saying affirmations on their own is not enough. They will help you see things differently, feel more positive about yourself and open opportunities for you.
However, they are simply a way to help you “move in the right direction”.
In order to make positive changes that last, you need to take action in the direction of your positive statements.
Say you were feeling lonely and with the help of your positive affirmations you see more opportunities to meet people.
This could be in form of events, invites for coffee, chatting with new colleagues etc. These are opportunities you may have previously ignored or not even been aware of but now they have come into your reality.
You must take action and start to go to these events or have a coffee with someone. You are reinforcing the positive belief (I live a life filled with friends) with an action (accepting a coffee invite).
Just saying you don’t want to be lonely is not enough.
Saying positive affirmations about meeting people is great but is not enough on its own.
You need to see the opportunities around, step out of your comfort zone (bolstered by your belief in your affirmations) and meet some new people.
You need to move in the direction your affirmations are pointing you to.
Say your affirmations, take action and claim the future you deserve!